Episode 59: Everyday Peacemaking with Osheta Moore

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Do you ever feel like motherhood has you confined within the four walls of your home, unable to make a difference in the wider world? On today’s episode, we’re chatting with Osheta Moore— author of “Shalom Sistas: Living Wholeheartedly in a Broken World”—about peacemaking. Is there a better topic to cover the day of midterm elections? Osheta speaks passionately about peacemaking in our everyday lives, encourages us to seek subversive joy in the face of despair, and challenges us to tell better stories about the people who frustrate us. Plus, don’t miss her hilarious story about adjusting to the “vehicular Hunger Games” of the school car line and the one uncomplicated question Osheta asks her kids every day to keep their focus on joy.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by the weight of the world, we hope this episode lifts you up and reminds you that you can be a peacemaker right here, right now, right where you are.

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This is How We Do: Personal Style

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Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered: where did I go? Today we’re talking about how our personal style has shifted from pre-kid life to mom life. From getting dressed in the morning to washing our face at night—we’re spilling the beans on our makeup, clothing, and skin care must-haves. In this episode, Ashlee divulges which magical perfume earns her compliments from both flight attendants and sandwich shop employees, while Indiana shares a hack for keeping her wardrobe fresh through the holiday season. Plus, April explains why it’s necessary to hire a babysitter to go shoe shopping with her husband. Whether your daily uniform is a ponytail and yoga pants or you can’t leave the house without a swipe of red lipstick, we hope this lighthearted chat puts a smile on your face and reminds you that you’re beautiful inside and out.

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Episode 58: Motherhood + Work: The How with Jesse Coulter and Akia Ng

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Today Indiana is chatting with two of her real-life friends about the logistics of being full-time working moms. Jesse Coulter and Akia Ng join us to discuss the tightrope act of daily life, how they juggle childcare drop-offs and pick-ups, what they’ve had to “let go” of, and more. You’ll also hear Jesse share how she prioritizes time with her husband (day dates!) and Akia admits she sometimes has stay-at-home-mom envy. Plus, we hear what moments make it all worthwhile.

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This is How We Do: Organization & Systems

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Calling all Monica Gellers! From family schedules and laundry to email and to-do lists—today we’re sharing the organizational tips and systems that keep our homes running (relatively?) smoothly. In this episode, April shares a smart hack for managing mail (tip: don’t let it enter the house!), Ashlee passionately discusses her cutthroat approach to clutter, and Indi is mostly just here to listen and learn. Whether you geek out over a pretty color-coded calendar like April or keep your entire family’s schedule in your head like Ashlee, we hope this conversation makes you smile and possibly inspires you to finally tackle that one system in your house that isn’t working.

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Episode 57: Motherhood + Work: The Why with Jessica Honegger

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Today we’re talking about motherhood and work with Noonday Collection founder, Jessica Honegger. Despite the internal grappling she endured while building her company as a young mom, Jessica has learned in recent years to embrace the paradox of “and” instead of “either/or” when it comes to working. She also shares about an aha moment she experienced during an exchange with a stay-at-home mom in the middle of Starbucks. (Indi may or may not have cried.) Whether you work full-time or stay at home or find yourself somewhere in between, we hope this dialogue reminds you there is no one-size-fits-all for mothering, and that all of our unique roles are special and worth celebrating.

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This is How We Do: Marital Communication

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Today we’re pulling back the curtain on how we communicate with our spouses—from arguments to resolutions and everything in between. We’re spilling the beans on our silliest recurring fights, how we do (and don’t) flirt, and when/how we tackle hard conversations in our homes. Plus, you’ll learn our stances on R-rated text messages and why nacho cheese is a surprisingly contentious topic! Whether you’ve been married for two years or two decades, we hope this conversation makes you smile and reminds you that all of our marriages are a work in progress.


Show Notes

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Mentioned in this episode:

We love the personality tests at Coffee + Crumbs. The Road Back To You is a book Ashlee and Indiana have read about enneagrams, but here’s a (free!) test to start. We also mention Meyers Briggs and here’s a free test for that!

Whatever happened to AIM?!

App you might need: GIF Keyboard, Photo Vault… just in case you need to lock away your PG-13+ photos.

Bugeting help: Mint.com, YNAB

Emily of Be.Leathercraft was our Slow Claps contributor this week!

Essays on marriage on Coffee + Crumbs

Share your latest mom victory with us! We'd love to share some of these stories with our community. Download the Voxer app (it's like a walkie talkie) and leave a message for coffeeandcrumbs and we may play it in a future episode for our "Slow Claps" segment!


Show credits: 

Hosted by Indiana Adams, Ashlee Gadd, and April Hoss, produced by Katie Leipprandt, edited by Kyle Cummings.


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Episode 56: Growing Your Family: Part Three (Infertility)

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To wrap up our mini-series on growing your family, today we’re talking about infertility with C+C writer Melanie Dale. We discuss how infertility can put pressure on your sex life, the depression Melanie experienced as she was going through fertility treatments, and how she eventually broke through to a healthy place with the help of girlfriends and a counselor. Plus, we hear all about the sperm illustrations in her forthcoming book, Infreakinfertility! For those of you who have walked this road before or are currently walking it now, we hope Melanie’s voice gives you hope for the future and possibly helps you find a tiny bit of humor in it along the way.

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This is How We Do: Pregnancy

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With Ashlee and April both being pregnant, we thought it was high time to discuss the good, the bad and the ugly of gestating (speaking of ugly—does anyone else hate that word?). Tune in today to hear us discuss everything from first trimester puking to maternity fashion to whether or not it’s appropriate to register for your third (or fourth!) baby. You’ll also hear a short rant about the awkwardness of prenatal weigh-ins, and find out which host didn’t know she was pregnant until she was 18 weeks along. Whether you’re in the throes of morning sickness, debating if you can pull off maternity overalls (you so can!), or waddling around three days past your due date—this one goes out to all our fellow pregnant mommas. Growing a human is hard work, and you’re doing an awesome job!  

As always, we hope this conversation fills you up like a coffee date with good girlfriends.

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Episode 55: Growing Your Family: Part Two

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In part two of our mini-series on growing a family, today we’re addressing a side that isn’t often discussed publicly: what happens when spouses disagree on whether or not their family is complete? C+C writers Jenn Batchelor and Anna Quinlan join host Indiana Adams for a vulnerable conversation on what it looks like when one spouse wants another baby, and the other doesn’t. While we don’t have a beautiful bow to wrap up today’s episode with, we hope this raw and honest discussion encourages you, especially if you’re walking a similar journey with your spouse.

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This is How We Do: Bedtime

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Bedtime: the struggle is real. Today we’re talking about how we handle the end of the day—who’s in charge of the routine, what tricks we use to keep our kids sleeping as long as possible, and what creative stunts our children can be found pulling at the 8pm hour. We all commiserate over sleep deprivation during those newborn months and April shares her personal philosophy on how getting your baby to sleep is kind of like meeting someone’s pit bull.

We hope this conversation makes you smile and reminds you that you are not alone in your bedtime trials!

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Episode 54: Growing Your Family: Part One

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At Coffee + Crumbs, motherhood is what brings us together, but how did we get here? On today’s episode, we discuss whether or not we always wanted to be mothers, what those conversations looked like with our partners, and if we’re “done” now. You’ll learn who used to play pregnancy by stashing pillows under her shirt, who dreams of having a Home Alone sized family around her Thanksgiving table, and who never thought she’d be a mom but had a change of heart. Stick around for a big announcement during the second half of the show … well, a few big announcements, actually!

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This is How We Do: Back to School

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While we may still be hitting the pool daily and enjoying ice cream all-too-frequently, we can almost hear the school bus rambling around the corner. Today we’re talking about all things back to school: packed lunches, first day of school traditions, the carpool situation, and more! Plus, April shares some tips for getting off to a great start with your child’s teacher and it does NOT involve a mason jar (phew!). We also come up with a million dollar business idea so if you’d like to take MUber to Shark Tank on our behalf, please be our guest.

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Episode 53: Talking With Kids About Sex

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Today we’re wrapping up our mini-series on how to have important conversations with your kids, and, well, this one is going to make you blush the most because we’re talking about SEX. Our guest today is Kristen Crichton, a marriage and family therapist and professor of human sexuality at William Jessup University. Kristen packs a punch in this conversation, reminding us

why this dialogue should start at birth—because the greatest enemy of sexual wholeness is silence. Plus, she reminds us that we need to be the ones to tell our kids sex is fun and also teach them to respect Mom and Dad’s locked door. We hope you leave this episode feeling empowered to make the most of every opportunity and every curious observation! Remember: if you need to practice saying body parts without blushing or giggling, this makes an excellent Girls Night In.

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This is How We Do: Home Decor

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While our homes may have been overtaken by Cheerios and Legos, we still have dreams of their potential. Today we’re talking about all things home decor: how we define our home style, where we like to shop, what room we’d love to make over if we won the lottery, and some of our worst home decorating flops. Plus, Indiana tells us about her prized golden armadillo, and Ashlee shares why she’ll never buy another rocking chair off Craigslist. We hope this conversation leaves you feeling inspired to channel your inner Joanna Gaines, right after you make the kids pick up those Legos … again.

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Episode 52: Talking With Kids About Tricky People with Sam Sutherland

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Continuing our mini-series on how to have important conversations with your kids, on today’s episode we tackle how to talk about tricky people. Sam Sutherland—a social worker with more than 10 years of experience working with schools and social welfare organizations—joins Indiana and Ashlee to share her expertise on this topic. In this conversation, you’ll learn why it’s best to use the term “tricky people” over stranger danger, five rules to teach our kids by the time they’re five years old, and some general tips for how we can empower our kids to trust their instincts. Plus, we talk about Sam’s stance on sleepovers, the difference between secrets and surprises, and why she’s never afraid to be the bad guy. We hope you leave this episode feeling equipped to have this conversation with your kids, and possibly implement some new strategies to help keep your family safe.  

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This is How We Do: Birthdays

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To Pinterest or not to Pinterest—that is the question. On today’s episode we’re talking about all things birthday party! From big themed bashes to simple parties at the park, we cover invitations, menus, gifts and more on this much-requested topic. Plus, Indiana reveals the full name of Chuck E. Cheese (who knew he had a real name?!), and Ashlee goes on an accidental rant about her deep hatred of goody bags. Whether you’re an overachiever, underachiever, or fall right in the middle when it comes to birthday parties, remember: all kids really want is cake.

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Episode 51: Talking With Kids About Race with Tasha Morrison

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As part of our debut mini-series on how to have important conversations with your kids, today we’re talking all about race. Latasha Morrison, founder of Be the Bridge, joins host Indiana Adams and Coffee + Crumbs writer Melanie Dale to educate us on how to approach this topic with our children, and how to lead by example in the quest for racial unity. Tasha also speaks about the difference between diversity and racial reconciliation, the difference between being color blind and color brave, and how we can equip our children to speak up when they witness an injustice. We hope this dialogue inspires you to start having some conversations about race in your home, if you haven’t already.

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This is How We Do: Fitness

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Join us for today’s episode as we reflect on our love/hate relationship with exercise. We may as well have titled this episode, Fitness: This is How We Don’t. You’ll hear Ashlee share about the first and last Bikram yoga class she ever took, find out the real reason Indiana takes up new exercise hobbies (hint: shoes are involved) and cringe along with us as April shares her horrifying but hilarious ballet class fail. You may not walk away with many practical tips from this episode, but maybe your abs will get a work out from laughing? We sure hope so.

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Episode 50: Let's Hear It For the Dads with Kevin Madsen

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Let’s hear it for the dads! On today’s episode, Kevin Madsen (hilarious host of the Hey Dad podcast) joins us to talk about all things #dadlife. We discuss the cultural shift taking place in modern day fatherhood, dad stereotypes that drive Kevin nuts, and why men need good friends just like women do. Plus, Kevin shares an encouraging word for women who want to empower their husbands to lean into their roles as fathers. As you know, we only have a man on our show once in a blue moon, so we hope you enjoy this extra-special Father’s Day episode!  

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This is How We Do: Summer Vacation

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On today’s episode, we’re chatting about all things summer vacation. From flying with babies to surviving epic road trips, we hope this conversation leaves you feeling better equipped next time you head out of town with kiddos in tow. In this episode, Ashlee shares her secret for keeping kids quiet in the car, Indiana reveals her deep-seated love of all things Disney, and everyone has a good laugh over April’s travel motto: Eat, Pray, Prime. (As Melanie Shankle would say—put that on a t-shirt.) Happy summer travels!

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